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Trigger Warnings: (implied) sexual assault, self-harm, depression, loss

a lifeverse--a name for the infinitely small or large lifetimes within your own

I have lived three lifetimes since I awoke this morning.  I shall live three more by dinner time, maybe four by the time I rest my head.  

Over the past few months, I have been toying with the concept of a lifetime.  Lifetimes may be the largest metric of time that we can personally measure, yet I still feel as though I have lived several lifetimes within my own, particularly regarding the incomprehensible pain that has accompanied me this past year.  There are people with whom I feel I have lived through multiple lifetimes.  There are events that shook me to the core, leading me to wonder if I have survived several more.  Some lifetimes, or lifeverses, last only moments.  Some take longer to transpire.  

Here are some of the lifeverses I have lived over the past five months.

---

i rarely worry

for my safety

while i’m alone

 

the worst thing

that ever happened to me

was in a room

full of people watching

---

my children will never watch the little mermaid

 

they will never learn to love someone

who adores them

only when they cannot speak

 

they with never love someone

who oppresses them

 

---

if i have entrusted you with my story

with my pain that i have taken

so long to relinquish

do not ask me for details.

 

---

his hand covered my mouth,

silencing me--

--but only in that moment.

i am still here.

this time, louder

and stronger

than ever.

you cannot

you will not

silence me.

 

---

the lighter

 

sometimes i’d ignite it

just to watch it burn orange

between my fingertips

 

sometimes i’d draw it

just a little too close

 

i didn’t buy it

i found it on the floor

tangled in a pile of my clothes

not sure how they got there

 

---

if i can love them,

i have the capacity to love myself, too.

 

---

darling,

be gentle with yourself.

you still have lifetimes left to live.

 

---

i’d call this

taking back ownership of myself

but you never owned me

 

i am no trophy

no possession

 

there’s no taking back

what never was

(and has never been)

yours

 

---

no one soul could ever disrupt your functionality,

for you could breathe

long before you could love
 

---

the sooner you write it,

the sooner you allow it to exist apart from you.

 

---

why can’t you let me rest?

let me live in my own skin?

exist in my own skull?

 

you tie me to my bed

and question why i can’t move

 

you leave

only to replace yourself with danger

i’d rather feel empty than this

 

who gifted you lungs

and into you, breathed life?

 

like a parasite, you consume me

you find solace in a home you stole

and assume it as your own

 

when will you allow me to survive in myself?

 

---

will you ever forgive yourself

for something you didn’t do?

 

---

you did not ignite a fire within me.

the fire was already there,

burning, cackling.

you were afraid to get too close

for fear of getting burnt.

what a shame that is.

my flame keeps me warm--

i add the charcoal myself.

 

---

my condolences to the cautious soul

who approached the fire

burning within me

and stepped back

for fear of getting burnt

 

---

gently, i return to myself without mention that i ever left.

 

---

i am okay. what a beautiful intervention.

 

---

relish

the pieces of you

for which no one else can take credit

 

---

in unlearning you, i learned myself.


By Tasha Boyer. 

Survey: Mental Health at Yale

Interview: Dr. Marney White on the Intersection of Public Health and Mental Health